By managing expectations, both our own and those of the people in our life (teachers, family, partners), we create breathing room for our experiences. This allows us to live with more certainty and calm, encouraging less reactivity and avoiding upset, whilst expressing ourselves fully and enjoying what life can offer.
We all have expectations of people, events, our school, movies we go to, the restaurants we eat at. Most of the time our expectations live below our subconscious mind and we do not know we had the expectation until we are either happily surprised or disappointed. And when we are disappointed we LOVE to tell people about it!
Unrealistic expectations can, and most often do lead to disappointment. Too many people are obsessed with finding the perfect career, achieving the highest grades or finding the perfect partner, and as a result become increasingly frustrated when this does not pan out.
We can help address managing expectations in the following guises:
Managing expectations of ourselves
Managing expectations of family and friends
Managing expectations of teachers and sports coaches
Managing our expectations of others
An unfortunate pitfall of having high expectations in certain circumstances is that we prevent ourselves from enjoying the experience altogether. We help to readjust your expectations to allow you to enjoy experiences and to grow from them. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself without the pressure of living up to preconceived notions.
When you have unrealistic notions for people, you place yourself at a high risk of getting disappointed and hurt. Maybe someone did let you down in certain aspects, but isn’t it inherently unfair to have these people on such a pedestal? By maintaining an accurate awareness of your own realities, you become able to determine what is truly expected from others.
Our therapy philosophy centres on making positive, proactive actions towards a more fulfilling and rewarding life. As such, we recognise that often we achieve things because of (and not in spite of) the high expectations of ourselves and others that drive us to success. It is in the managing of these expectations that then help you to reach your full potential where we will help you.